October 15, 2013

I survived

My children cannot sleep without me praying with them. They can't sleep without us holding hands (and even holding feet). 

Julia cannot sleep without me putting my hands on her tummy.

Julia at 6 months

Rafael cannot sleep without me scratching his back.

 Rafael at 6 months

Juancho cannot sleep without my left arm as he uses it as his pillow.

Juan at 6 months

I wasn't able to sleep much last night because the three musketeers had a sleepover at their cousins' place.  It was actually their first time do to that kind of sleepover. 

Before leaving home, John and I instructed them of the do's and dont's while staying at other people's home such as ask permission before using any of their aunt and cousin's stuff.  Tell Tita Gaye if they're hungry instead of just grabbing and eating any of the food, so on and so forth.

Julia, Rafael and Juan packed their respective bags before heading to the door...

Juan: Mom, will you survive even if we're not sleeping with you tonight?
Me: I don't know baby. I'm not sure yet what I'm going to feel later because it's the first time you guys aren't sleeping beside me.
Juan: Don't worry mom. At least you can spend time with Dad the whole time while were out. I love you, Mom.

Later when Julia, Rafael and Juan arrive I have an answer to Juan's question. My answer will be pang Mrs. Universe with tears rolling down my aging cheeks:

"I survived last night even if you weren't beside me but I wasn't able to sleep much. The normal 4 hour sleep was cut into half. I'm awake most of the time.  I missed our holding hands and holding feet, I missed the feel of Ate's tummy, I missed Kuya's back, I missed your neck, baby. I missed nagging you guys into sleeping early so you'll grow taller than me and your Dad. And mostly, I missed you guys."

Note to Parents: This is why it's very important we spend not just quality but also quantity time with our respective children for they grow so fast. Don't take for granted the time when they want to play with you, when they want your attention, when they want you in their lives as it may be too late then.

Here's the lyrics of my favorite song as a reminder to parents who prioritize jobs, careers and friends more than their kids.  You can watch the video on Youtube by clicking the highlighted title:

Ugly Kid Joe


My child arrived just the other day
He came to the world in the usual way
But there were planes to catch and bills to pay
He learned to walk while I was away
And he was talkin' 'fore I knew it, and as he grew
He'd say "I'm gonna be like you dad
You know I'm gonna be like you"

And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home dad?
I don't know when, but we'll get together then son
You know we'll have a good time then

My son turned ten just the other day
He said, "Thanks for the ball, Dad, come on let's play
Can you teach me to throw", I said "Not today
I got a lot to do", he said, "That's ok"
And he walked away but his smile never dimmed
And said, "I'm gonna be like him, yeah
You know I'm gonna be like him"

And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home son?
I don't know when, but we'll get together then son
You know we'll have a good time then

Well, he came home from college just the other day
So much like a man I just had to say
"Son, I'm proud of you, can you sit for a while?"
He shook his head and said with a smile
"What I'd really like, Dad, is to borrow the car keys
See you later, can I have them please?"

And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home son?
I don't know when, but we'll get together then son
You know we'll have a good time then

I've long since retired, my son's moved away
I called him up just the other day
I said, "I'd like to see you if you don't mind"
He said, "I'd love to, Dad, if I can find the time
You see my new job's a hassle and kids have the flu
But it's sure nice talking to you, Dad
It's been sure nice talking to you"

And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me
He'd grown up just like me
My boy was just like me

And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home son?
I don't know when, but we'll get together then son
You know we'll have a good time then 

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"Truly wonderful the mind of a child is."

- YODA, Star Wars Episode II: Attack of the Clones

4 comments:

  1. Part of being a parent, is learning how to let go...

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  2. Hi Joy! I'm sure, just like me, you'd drop everything and anything for your kids :-) I lost both my parents when I was 14. The time I spent with them was short...but it was indeed sweet. That's why I value the time I have with my kids right now. My time with them is most important to me. I don't want to regret anything later on.

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    1. Hi Viv! I lost my Mom when she was only 43. I'm 40 now, you'll know know when...so I'm making the most of my time with them...Thanks for dropping by. Muss you na...

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  3. where did my comment go? already commented here.. sigh, the problem with ipad, text sometimes go up somewhere.. :(

    I can so relate and how lovely it is looking back at the photos of our little ones. My kids are already grown up and I sometimes think they don't need me anymore and I'm sure, sleepover would give them lots of fun

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Thank you for the joyful comments!