21st Anniversary - The Secret to a Happy Marriage

John and I are celebrating today our 21st Anniversary. 14 years for wedding, plus 7 years as sweethearts. Same date, Sept 11.

Weeks prior to this date, I planned everything well on my mind. I was going to cook at least 3 kinds of viand that John likes. I was going to bake 21 chocolate cupcakes and we will blow the candles together.

Unfortunately, yesterday I had my monthly period (menstruation, in short). Unluckily, I'm one of those women who suffers dysmenorrhea (a medical condition of pain during menstruation that interferes with daily activities). Nothing seems to go well. Pain is all I felt. I was not able to cook. Not even my children's pack lunch. I just gave Julia, Rafael and Juan money to buy at their respective school canteen.

To make me feel better, I posted a throwback back collage, photos of John and me when we were kids. It gathered many likes from FB friends, family, relatives and friends, and former office mates. We were greeted by many and that made me feel so happy.

As of this writing, I found out that that collage was not in my FB wall. I deleted that collage from my instagram account and changed it to a clearer collage. I didn't know that if you delete a picture from instagram it will also be deleted from FB. Is that so? I'm not sure for I am not techie.  All I know now is that life's like that. Sometimes you want it a certain way but unfortunate incidences happen. I'd like to cry but then again, it'll only make me feel worst.

I just want to look at the bright side of this matter. It's just a photo collage deleted from my FB wall, what matters most is that the man who married me 14 years ago, the man I courted for 7 years (seriously!) is still in love with me and that he is contented staying home because, as he always says, "I have everything I want and need, you and the three ugly bears".  

"The secret to a happy marriage 

is if you can be at peace with someone within four walls, 

if you are content because the one you love is near to you, 

either upstairs or downstairs, or in the same room, 

and you feel that warmth that you don't find very often,

then that is what love is all about."

- Bruce Forsyth