July 19, 2016

Three Things I'd Do Before Dying

Warning: This may not be the usual happy post you see in this blog. If you're afraid on topics like death and dying, please don't watch "morbid talk" on the video below.

I haven't been sleeping well lately because of the connections - My mom passed away in 1993, at a young age of 43. Then I lost a friend just this month at the age of 43 too, and that I just turned 43 this July 12.

Last March my doctor advised me to have a biopsy for the nodules on my throat.  I've been seeing Dr. Lintonjua since 2001 but it was the first time that he advised me to have a biopsy. They found calcifications on my nodules which were not there before. I have not done the biopsy yet, not because I'm worried to know the result nor I'm afraid to die, we're all going there sooner or later anyway.

In case I go earlier than most, I just hope I have given more than taken, I have loved more than hated.

Here are are the Three Things I'd Do Before Dying:



91 comments:

  1. hugs sis! I am praying for you. You are one of the most positive person I've come across. I am hoping to see you again soon! ������❤️

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    1. Thanks, Nhes! I'll be sending you (more like handing) 3 books for your unico gwapito ijo.

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  2. I had the chance to get to know you and since then, I adored you. You are the one I idolize, your a supermom. You being a mom, wife, and a friend you balance them very well. I had a biopsy last January 27,2016 and was diagnosed to have Papillary Thyroid Cancer. I had thyroidectomy last April and some nodules were removed bec.it was also seen with cancer cells. I had Radio Active Therapy last June. So If I had a month to live, Id also like to ask for fogiveness for all the wrong things I've done and people I've hurt and forgive them as well. To have the chance to bond more with my family and to have the chance to do trekking or hiking.

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    1. Thanks, Xmile! I'll be sending you (more like handing) 3 books for your daughter.

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  3. Ate joy, have thw biopsy na. For peace of mind and further management. I'm praying for you! Huuugs!

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    1. Thanks, Celine. I'll send you a book ha.

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  4. Kim Aldous Oliver RanosaJuly 25, 2016 at 3:15 AM

    1. Thank God and ask forgiveness
    2. Tell my loved ones how much I love them
    3. Organize an outreach program for the poor

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    1. Hi Kim! It was nice meeting you at an FX ride. I don't exactly know what to give you. You're a young man with full of things ahead. Ano nga ba ibibigaty ko sayo? Hmmm. Iisipin ko pa. I'll pm you in Fb.

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  5. Hello sis. The first time we met, i felt comfortable with you agad. You are one of the most positive persons I know. Keep the faith. PRAYERS.

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  6. You are a strong and an amazing woman Joy. Have the biopsy now so you will know the results. Remain positive that everything will be okay. Prayers sent to you and your family.

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    1. Hi Sarah! Thanks so much! I'll send you a shirt for your running sesh.

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  7. Hugs and prayed for you Ms.Joy.!!!

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    1. Hi Roh! Thanks! I'll be giving you 3 books for your kids.

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  8. Keep living life to the fullest. You aren't named Joy for nothing :)

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    1. Hi Pepper. Thanks! I shall be sending you a cook book that you might find useful.

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  9. Joy, my lovely and bubbly friend I truly admire you courage to face the inevitable which is death. I have been battling my demons too for too long now and one of them involve my health which I consciously evade for almost a year now. I don't want to talk about to anyone at this point. Since this post is about facing death I will be honest I am a BIG COWARD! Just thinking about it set me to panic attack mode to the point I've been to ER several times because of my uncontrollable anxiety which was merely focused on death and dying. I don't normally talk about this but hey you just made me open my heart- my innermost demons. I AM AFRAID TO DIE and afraid of LOSING LOVED ONES and that truth I am not afraid to share with you here. Since I am here I will try my best to answer your question with all sincerity. These 3 things would be (1)Reassure my loved ones of my unconditional love as much as I can (2) Share my memories and momentous stories to those closest to me so that I may live on in their hearts and their minds and hoping not to be forgotten and last (3)Find a way to build up strength and courage to face my fate- I really don't know how or if I will ever find it. These are the 3 things I think I would do in that situation. And as for you let's support one another and pray that THIS TOO SHALL PASS in JESUS name. AMEN! I love you sis Joy and will always have good thoughts and prayers for you. -macysantos

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    1. Hi sis! You don't look afarid, you look awesome every time we meet! Sneding you a book to accompany you on your trips.

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  10. Mommy Joy! You are God's wonderful creation. Don't be afraid, live life to the fullest!

    Belated Happy Birthday!

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    1. Hi Mommy Rubz! It's been such a long time knowing you in FB. Sana magkita na talaga tayo. The books and stuff I wanted to send to your kids nagkawala wala na. I'm praying we can meet here in Manila this year. I'll hand na lang to you...

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  11. You are a shining light to this dark world in media! Awesome Grace is upon your life.

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    1. Thanks David. I guess you have everything naman. I will just pray for you, for peace on and happiness on your blogging career.

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  12. Do not believe the lies of the enemy. Instead believe that God has a great plan for you! Psalm 91:16
    With long life I will satisfy him and show him my salvation." and Jeremiah 29:11 New International Version
    For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future

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  13. The earlier something is detected, the better, so go dor the biopsy. I've had biopsy done for my pituitary tumor in 2004, and dortunately, it was benign, but I'm still having follow-ups up to now. This week and the next, I hope to accomplish my blood tests and follow-up visits to my doctors. Joy, keep the positive spirit alive. God loves you and so do we. Hugs!

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    1. Thanks Tetch! I'll give you gcs for nail pampering.

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  14. To add to my previous comment, here are the three things I'd do before I die: strengthen my relationship with God, spend the rest of my days with my family and ask forviveness for all the wrong things I have done in my life.

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  15. Hey! Happy birthday. Thank you , dear Lord, for the gift of life. Stay positive and live life to the fullest. See you around!

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    1. Thanks, Momi Bolin! I shall be sending you books for the boys!

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  16. R castro aka MITM :-)July 25, 2016 at 7:22 AM

    Ms. Joy... let's just live life to its fullest! Be happy always. Honestly,Im afraid to die, bcoz my kids are still small. Im also having agam agams lately and it is giving me pain in th batok. Stress. My mom was diagnosed with I believe stage 2 "C". Damn that C word! I really feel like crying now but I know God is always with us. He will never give us trials na hindi kakayanin. Hayst. Aga aga naiiyak ako hehe. love you Ms. Joy, u r one of the credible and lovable persons I look up to, please know that :-)

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    1. Hi! Thanks! I can't find you in fb. Please pm me in fb so I know what to send you. Thanks!

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  17. Hi Mommy Joy, we have the same dilemma. My mom wont get herself checked and im battling a blood disorder. Anyways, I would, just like what you'll do, give as much as i can, including time, forgiveness and love. I read in the Bible that prioritizing others will do you more good than focusing on yourself, so I guess that's a win win. Plus, I'll use my time to be with the family, and probably wreck that invisible wall that limits my actions from my people I care about and genuinely just enjoy the beautiful things in life, the minute details - sun rays, falling leaves, moving clouds...

    Stay in Bliss, ate Joy! 😘

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    1. Hi! Thanks! I'll be sending you gcs for nail (manicure)

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  18. It's so much easier to get paranoid and worry but I suggest you get the biopsy soon, mommy,just to be on the safe side. Always, enjoy and relish each moment + make each second of your life count! Hugs + kisses from me + the little man! 😚😚

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    1. Thanks, Vix! I'll send you a cook book that hopefully you can use

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  19. Let me give you a warm hugs sis. True, life is so short that we need to spent good times with other people. I know you'll overcome any pain and anxiety you have right now. You are always included in my prayers. God will always give answers at the right time. If there could be three things I will do for a month, just like you, will communicate to those people who I've hurt and disappoint and ask forgiveness. Secondly, will make sure my children will be taken care of especially my little man, Yvan :( and lastly, will spend time with my husband and beloved children. If there is one greatest fear I have, is to die. Because I know, my children can never accept things like these if that happens. :(

    Love you sis Joy and more strength to come your way and family...

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    1. Thanks, Heart. I'll send you a cook book since mahilig ka magluto. I'm sure magagamit mo.

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  20. Hi Ms Joy! Stay strong and trust the plans of our great God!

    The three things that I would do before I die are these:

    1. I would probably do the same. Ask for forgiveness, repent and share love even if it's really hard to be kind to people who don't deserve it.

    2. Give time to my family and loved ones.

    3. Do the things that will make me happy. I will seize the moment.

    Proverbs 3:5-6New International Version (NIV)
    5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart
    and lean not on your own understanding;
    6 in all your ways submit to him,
    and he will make your paths straight.

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    1. Thanks Pauline! I'll send you a book.

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  21. Forgive and seek forgiveness; love and share this as deeply as my heart permits; do the things that am so afraid of doing. -- Sam and I will pray with you and your loved ones. See you again soon.

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    1. Hi Joan! Thank you so much! Sending you a book.

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  22. Let every moment counts. Health is wealth and I hope it will not be that serious after you undergo biopsy. Continue to spread good vibes, happiness and love. You are always on my prayers. See you around!

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    1. Thanks, cousin. Ano naman bibigya ko sayo? Nasayo na lahat.

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  23. Hugs. We are here. Di pa ready si God tanggapin ka. Magtigil ka.

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  24. Spend time with family, declutter all the nega and basura, sell what I can and sort the finances for Brent and my family.

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    1. Thanks, Kats. I'll be giving you a book na bagay sayo.

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  25. I am sure you will be blessed more Ms. Joy

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    1. Hi Phia! Thanks! I'll be giving you book that you can read with your lil girl.

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  26. Hi sis! I just want to thank God for allowing you to be in my life. You know that you are my "neutralizer". :) Thank you for the comforting words of encouragement when we got the chance to talk in my salon. Don't worry too much..God is in control of our lives. I still owe you a visit in your humble abode. See you when I see you! Take care! Belated happy birthday!! Muah, muah! 😙😙😙❤❤❤

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  27. Oh and I so agree with you...with the top 2 things you'll do before you die....but with the 3rd....i think I'll get in touch with my relatives and old friends as many as I can, and tell them how much I appreciate them having been a part of my life. ❤❤❤

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  28. Hi Joy! Just keep praying and think positive! There is nothing impossible with God! Keep the faith! Will be praying with you! Hope we can have coffee soon! ❤️

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    1. Hi Isis! I know you have everything already. Maybe, I'll give you the time so I can check the services of Philam na.

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  29. You're one of the bubbliest, friendliest person I came to know. I hope you find your peace to have a good sleep. Take heart Psalm 121. Take care.

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    1. Thank you! I can't see your profile. Please pm me in fb if we are friends. So I can send you a lil token. Salamat.

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  30. Hi Joy, I met you last year in our laser tag party in Market Market and I just want to tell you that you are a blessing to people. In that short time that we spent together with our families, it was as if i had known you for quite a while already. You have this gift of making people at ease. I pray that you will be at peace and be well. 😃 God bless you and hope to bump into you one of these days.

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  31. Always be positive, happy thoughts and let's go to bed early.:-)
    $weet Dream$ are made of these.:-) :-)

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    1. Hi Brooke! No need to give you anything, you already had me at that "Butch (boots)!".

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  32. Joy dearie, hope things will go well for you. Thanks for making our short meetings nice and enjoyable. Godbless you, mwaaah!!!

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    1. Thanks, Percia! Bawal tayo magtabi sa GPTA Meetings, we're both noisy. I already gave you the shoes. Hope ya like it!

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  33. You and my daughter have the same birthday! :)

    Yes, we are all going there someday, so let's just enjoy life to its fullest! Let us continue spreading JOY!

    But, asap, do the needed biopsy. Health is wealth, right?! :)

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  34. You're a person of great strength and faith. Think positive and surround yourself with the people that you love. :)

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  35. Awww. Heart break. Here's what I will do.
    1. Thank God for what I have and for the last days of my life and will continue to glorify his Name.
    2. Forgive and ask forgiveness to those that I have hurt.
    3. Love, love and love till the last day.

    There is no short or long life as long as it is well lived. Have faith. The Lord makes miracles happen.

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  36. This thought has been on my mind lately too. I even fixed my kids' bank account and investments.. You know, just in case. That's one thing I'll prepare before I go. Next on my list is to eat all the food that I want! Haha! And lastly, be with the people I love.

    Hang in there Mommy Joy! Prayers up!

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  37. This last line is so beautiful: "I have given more than taken, I have loved more than hated." Death may be a morbid topic to some, but its a topic we have to face and its prudent to be thinking of those "three things". I hope you have yourself tested already, for your peace and the people who love you. : )

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  38. I have this kind of thought sometimes too and praying to God na huwag muna kasi my son is still very young. I still have to make sure na secured ang future niya. Pero gusto ko alam ko na I'm dying para naman syempre magawa o makain ang datiy bawal. :P

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  39. Thanks for giving me an idea and now i should make my own list hahahah.. and i know it won't be as short as yours because i have plenty of things in mind! lol

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    1. Always happy to see you Eihd! Be it in FB or in events.

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  40. Yes death is something we should really think about. Not morbid at all. To seek forgiveness and to give forgiveness is a good start. I hope that the findings on your nodules will be okay. Praying for you.

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  41. Miss Joy, I am praying for you. Just always remember that our minds are very powerful so always think of positive things. I understand that what your doctor said is very threatening but, as what others have said in the comments above, the earlier it is detected, the better. You're still young. Better days are coming. :) Hugs for you Mommy! Maraming nagpe-pray for you. :)

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  42. I am so heartbroken nung nawala si Ate Jenny :( at the same time madami ako natutunan and naging wake up call for me to prepare because we may never have tomorrow. Lahat naman tayo darating dun kaya always live your life to the fullest, do everything na that makes you happy, forgive and forget, pray and do good things to everyone.

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    1. Thats right, Rochelle, live life to the fullest. Be joyful, always!

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  43. This is a topic which I am too afraid to deal with. Thinking about it gives me nausea really, as in, nahihilo ako when I think of my mortality. But then, whenever I think of my faith, it's as if I'm being whispered that what's important is that you live yourself according to how HE willed you to live it.

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    1. Yes, that is right. Live accroding to God's plan.

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  44. Hugs and prayers to you! You're such a wonderful person of positivity. Go get your biopsy, it might turn out to be nothing anyway. This post got me a bit scared though. I was diagnosed to have nodules also a long long time ago. I just have my regular thyroid exams every year.

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  45. Hope your biopsy turn out to be negative. It's really important to be prepared for our death. But, I think it would be difficult to be 100% ready for it. I hope everythign turns out fine in the end.

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  46. Praying for you and have faith, everything is possible with God

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  47. Here's a virtual hug for you 💞 It's true that when you're faced with a life-threatening situation, you get to reflect on things you might have missed or would want to accomplish before you go. I applaud you for coming to terms with your situation. Hope you can stay positive amidst all this.

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    1. Thanks, yes still the joyful me, as always.

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  48. Health is wealth and we have known this for a long time. It's not that you and anyone else do not care but there are so many things we want to do and we need to do. In both cases, health may not necessarily be a priority.

    When we do things we want to do, are these the right things to do? When we need to, is there another choice?

    See, either way, we don't have to wait until time is limited to do everything we could.

    Related: http://www.amazinglifedaily.com/what-if-i-am-dead-my-perspective/

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Thank you for the joyful comments!