January 31, 2017

Should You Be Friends with Your Ex?

My husband and I went on a couple spa recently. While John and her therapist were quietly doing the massage, my therapist and I kept on talking about life, her family, her husband. And then she giggly said, "I have something to tell you, Ma'am!"...

Her first boyfriend (she only had two, of course the last one became her better half) whom she has lost contact after migrating to another country, suddenly found her in FaceBook after 40+ years. He asked for apologies for breaking her heart in the past and that he wanted to reconnect with her. 

The lady is in her senior years, but she was happily telling the story as if she's a young kid. Pati ako actually natatawa at natutuwa. Imagine at 60+ kinikilig pa daw sya. I could feel her heart beating fast as she stroke my belly so I asked her, "kikitain mo ba?". She didn't answer but instead asked me, "Ano sa palagay mo, Ma'am". I replied, "If I were you, kikitain ko at sasampalin ko, hahahaha!" 

John's therapist butted in and said, "Ako kikitain ko din. Wala naman na yun, past is past, baka magso-sorry lang".

But my husband has a different take on the matter and said, "What for? It might rekindle some old fire hidden beneath the heart. Why tempt fate?".

Ikaw anong gagawin mo? Should you be friends with your ex? Please leave your comment below and I might surprise one or two with a Bubbleman gift pack😉😉😉.


  1. I agree with your hubby! Ü very well said and/or "ask" Ü (I can't actually answer, I need an entrepreneur, oh I meant was, interpreter! Ü (super pun intended) Ü

  2. I will see him :)just to make kumusta past is past naman na..

  3. I will meet him still. There will be no fire to be rekindled if I am confident and secured of the love I share with my husband. Kilig ang story ni ate ha.

  4. It's good enough the ex-bf apologized.
    But to meet up with your ex once again, thanks but no thanks.
    Whatever is the intention of both parties, especially if one of them is happily in a relationship or legally married already, it's not a good move.
    If they are friends already in FB, maintain the friendship and carry on with their owm personal lives.

  5. Depende yan kung paano kayo naghiwalay at dun sa ex mo. Kasi in my case sa dad ni Izhi, a big No. Masyadong mahalaga saken ang peace of mind namin mag-mom kaya I don't think being friends with him is such a very nice idea. However, with my other 2 exes from highschool, we are still very much friends though walang constant communication.

  6. It's good enough that the ex-bf apologized.
    But if there are other intentions (like a hope to rekindle an old flame, to answer your 'what ifs", etc) to meet up once again with your ex, especially if one or both parties are in a happy relationship or married, it's not advisable and not a good move.

    If they are truly friends now as they claimed, just maintain the friendship and carry on with their own personal lives.

  7. Depende siguro sa reason ng breakup. Kung hindi kapata-patawad ung kasalanan nya no way. Pero if you separated na mutual naman at walang malaking pagtatalo, keri lang. I am still friends w/ some of my exes. Meron pa nga ninang ako sa anak nya. So it really depends.

  8. Yup. I believe in the saying that if you can't save the relationship atleast save the friendship. Mas gusto ko yon kesa naman sa strangers na lang diba? Temptation is always there naman pero its your choice kung kakagat ka sa temptation. Omg sis! You gave me an idea for my blog. Hahahaha.

    Anyways, I remember my ex bf (the last boyfriend I had before I met my husband) he broke up with me and he was the one whose bitter. Hahahahaha. Natatawa ako kasi sa sobrang bitter nya sakin never syang nag gf hanggang ngayon. So ang ginawa ko triny ko syang kausapin kumbaga closure ganon. Pero wala e. Ayaw nya makipagusap so ang ginawa ko binalik ko lahat ng mga binigay nya sakin for the past 2 years ng relationship namin. Hahahahahaha!!! Ayaw mo ng friends?! Edi kalimutan kita. Hahahaha. Babooosh!

  9. I have one. We still talk and my husband knows about. We're both very cool about these things. :) We became friends again while we were abroad. When we came back to PH, we hangout. Still singles then, I realized we can't be more than friends anymore when we shared an MRT ride and he was the most maarteng tao in the whole world! Haha! Basically, we aren't the same people from 2004. I am happily married and my husbnd and I's take on this is that it's fine for as long you're not hurting anybody. I think your therapist should let her husband know. If he doesn't like the idea and she still goes then I'd look at it as cheating kasi ay nasasagasaan eh.

  10. Because I'm married, I won't make friends with an ex. Bakit pa? Marami na along friends. Haha. Siguro pwedeng maging civil, pero hanggang dun lang.


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