January 17, 2019

When Midlife Crisis Turns Into Depression

This article has been seating in my draft for quite so long. A year to be exact.  The recent suicide of Razorback drummer Brian Velasco has prompted me to post this article to remind you to reach out to your friend, your sibling, your office mate, your neighbor, your partner or just random person seating beside you in Grab Share. Your simple gesture of kindness may help save a life.

Oftentimes we think that joyful, strong and independent people do not need our attention. Wrong. Sometimes the happiest people are the loneliest. Sometimes the strongest people are the weakest. Sometimes the most independent person is the one who needs more attention and love.

And this is how I've been feeling last year...

I'm feeling a lot restless lately. I wanted to do so many things and accomplish things in such a short time. In reality though time is very limited.

I want to go back doing yoga, learn to sew and maybe level up my knowledge on urban farming. Parang gusto ko na din mag stop sa vlogging and blogging. Deactivate Facebook and go back to that life when social media isn't a thing.  

Ang daming tumatakbo sa isip. Di ko na sila mahabol kaya madalas may mga nakakalimutang mga bagay tulad ng saan inilagay ang telepono, and wallet, eyeglasses at iba pa.

Sometimes tears just roll down my cheeks without any reason. Ano itong nararamdaman ko? Ganito ba talaga ang feeling ng midlife crisis? Ano nga ba ang mid-life crisis?

According to Wikipedia, "A midlife crisis is a transition of identity and self-confidence that can occur in middle-aged individuals, typically 45–64 years old."

What's worst is when midlife crisis turns into depression because depression may result to having thoughts of committing suicide.

I am one lucky person because I have friends who keeps me entertained. Nora, who's based in California is my constant ka-chat sa madling-araw. Since my body clock coincides with US time, magka abot kami ng oras ni Nuts๐Ÿ˜€

Eulette, the widow of my late classmate Noi Tomas, is also a big help to me. She's my kakulitan naman mula umaga hanggang gabi. Actually di nya alam na may nararamdaman akong midlife crisis.  My purpose of chatting with her is actually to console her for losing her husband at such a young age. Pero sa true lang, she's the one helping me, di man nya alam. Ngayon malalaman nya na.๐Ÿ˜€

Then my youngest son Juan is the best antidote to this negative emotions. Of course hindi nya pa alam ang midlife crisis at hindi nya alam na naramdaman ko ito last year. His constant care and love for has helped me forget about depression.

Kaya kung sa akala nyong dahil masaya ang inyong kapatid, kaibigan, kamag-anak, kapitbahay hindi nyo na kakamustahin o kakausapin, MALI! May mga tao lang kasin magaling magadala ng mga negatibong nararamdaman.

Having midlife crisis does not mean you have troubled life. Midlife crisis and depression can happen to anyone kaya reach out ka din pag may time. Hindi yung pag may kailangan ka lang sa tao. ๐Ÿ˜€

Have you or a friend experienced a midlife crisis? If yes you might want to read this article I found at www.moneycrashers.com. Maybe you can pick some strategies to help resolve midlife crisis and avoid the trap of devastating depression.

Signs and Symptoms of a Midlife Crisis are Drastic Changes in Habits, Mood Swings, Impulsive Decision-Making, Irritable, Angry without justification or warning, inability to sleep or oversleeping, obsession with appearances, including different styles of clothing, makeup, and exercise routines, disconnecting from old friends and peplacing them with younger friends. Havigg feeling of general hopelessness and being “stuck in a rut. Thoughts of Death or Dying can lead to a dangerous obsession with death, and lead to depression. Sudden career change. Leaving a Spouse or Having an Affair. Increased Consumption of Alcohol or Drugs, Listless and Bored. Assigning Blame to others.

Tips and Strategies for Dealing with a Midlife Crisis:

1. Acknowledge the Crisis. Acknowledging the changes happening can help you find a way to move past the crisis.

2. Think Before Making Any Radical Changes.Before quitting a job, buying an expensive car, or leaving a spouse, talk to family members and friends. Sometimes, having an outside opinion can provide a useful perspective.

3. Get Professional Help. This can include different kinds of therapy, medicine, and holistic treatments.

4. Midlife Crises Are Not Inherently a Bad Thing. Use new thoughts and ideas in a positive way. With careful consideration and preparation, attitudes can improve with change, lessening the effects of the crisis.

5. Move Outside Your Comfort Zone. Trying a new activity, increasing a base of knowledge, and traveling can also help you move out of your comfort zones.

6. Volunteer More. Volunteering to help others can offer a new perspective to the problems caused by a midlife crisis. Working with the homeless or victims of domestic violence, for example, can help provide you with context during a midlife crisis.

7. Talk About the Crisis with Loved Ones

8. Create New Goals

9. Exercise and Eat Healthy Foods. Incorporating exercise, yoga, or meditation into a daily routine can help people suffering through a midlife crisis to gain perspective. Eat organic superfoods and take supplements for a much-needed energy boost.

January 10, 2019

Lamon Center by Artists Alley

It was not in our plan to eat at Lamon Center by Artists Alley in Batanes. John and I actually didn't know anything about this cute coffee shop. We were supposed to eat at Kubo by Pension Ivatan but the guy in front was so rude we lost our appetite. So we walked around  the town proper looking for a place to have dinner when Jerish Alcoy called us.

We met Jerish a day earlier at Basco Lighthouse. He is an artist and a part-time tour guide from Batanes. I thought we wouldn't see him again but there he was at Lamon having dinner with his girlfriend, Jhem.

The four of us were having a good time when a lady recognized me. She is Julie from Bulacan. She's also staying in KenAdrians and recognized me (probably my jolly-loud voice๐Ÿ˜. So the four became five, then six when the owner, Jo Jose joined in the fun!

The next day, as we were on our last day of tour, I invited husband and wife Engr. Bong and Mam Carol to try Lamon Center. Then along the road we met husband and wife Atty. Daye and Gil from Bulacan, and invited them too.

The quiet Batanes was beaming with laughter that night as we exchanged stories and jokes about life, love, work, Manila, family. One thing we all agreed upon, ANG GANDA NG BATANES!



What can I say about Lamon Center? Although they have limited menu, I definitely enjoyed their organic coffee! They also serve tsokolate, tea and other drinks. I also liked their rice meal (more like Singaporean food) and their kamote fries. Jo uses ingredients that is fresh from Batanes. She mostly buys from people growing plants in pots. I also super like that the fries is serve in a kamansi leaf.

Since Jo is an artist, Lamon Center has many of those art stuff hanged  on the walls.  Last but not  the least, I enjoyed talking to bubbly Joana! It felt like I was talking to myslef,  andami nya ding energy๐Ÿ˜

If you wish to enjoy sipping coffee while enjoying the beautiful twon plaze, give Lamon a call at 0995 535 2588.

January 9, 2019

Breathtaking Batanes

I started planning this Batanes trip 25 years ago when I first saw it at the late Susan Calo Medina's travel show. I knew this is a place I must visit with my husband, who was still then my boyfriend. 

Every year since then I'd plan a trip to this northernmost province of the Philippines but so many reasons hindered us from going.

Last February, I booked a ticket at Travel Fair via Airswift for a September Batanes escapade for our 25th year anniversary. Again, for the nth time, our flight was cancelled due to bad weather. 

January weather proved to be more cooperative and so John and I finally landed in Basco Airport last January 6. All the best things that happened in Batanes, from day 1, proved to be the most unexpected moments. 

Day 1. John helped this pretty young lady who's carrying so many food. Inside the plane, we started talking and we learned that she's a local form Batanes. Upon arrival at the airport, we waited for hours for our tour guide to pick us up but to no avail. They have completely forgotten about us. Good thing Leah was still there to assists us. She helped us find an accommodation, brought her to her house to have lunch and dinner. They were celebrating Three Kings at that time so we were lucky to have been served their famouse local dishes like Vunung. Leah even let us tag along to surprise the mother of her boyfriend who's celebrating her 62nd birthday that night.



Day 2 . We spent the second day with a joint tour with Bisumi Tour and Services (P5,500 per head for three days tour. Inclusive of lunch). We went to see Mt. Carmel Church, Pag-Asa Weather Station, Valugan Boulder Beach (where I met Kakai Bautista), Dipnausuhan Japanese Tunnel, Fundacion Pacita, Vayang Rolling Hills, Basco Lighthouse.


Day 3. Sabtang Tour.


Day 4.




Day 5.   On our fifth day, we went on a side trip at Spring of Youth, still under Bisumi Tour, This tour is not part of the usual three day joint tour so make sure you tell your tour guide if you want to see this hidden gem.



The question now is, sulit ba ang gastos sa Batanes? Yes, oo, sulit na sulit. I am the kind of person na masawain sa tanawin pero sa ganda ng kapaligiran at sa kabaitan ng mga mamamayan, siguradong babalik akong muli sa Breathtaking Batanes!

January 8, 2019

42 Years Challenge

Usong uso ang #10YearsChallenge lately so nakiki bandwagon ako. At dahil competitive ako, I did a 42 Years Challenge instead. ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜


Apatnapu at dalawang taong pagitan.
Nakaupo pa rin sa bangkuan.
Nakatingin sa kawalan.
Nag-iisip ng susunod na hantungan.
Lakwatsera na ako noon pa mang tatlong taon gulang๐Ÿ˜

January 7, 2019

HairX Hair Removal

A friend once asked me if given the chance to change a part of my body, what would it be? My answer was, "I wouldn't change anything but I'd like to be hair-free from arms to legs. I have achieved being hair-free in my armpits, legs and arms since 2010.

Last November, I achieved another milestone when I tried HairX Hair Removal for "down there".  I was offered by other laser hair removal to try their Brazilian laser hair treatment many times but I was kind of not ready back then for fear of painful procedure. For those who do not know what Brazilian laser hair removal is, it is pubic laser hair removal by laser specialists for those opting for no pubic hair whatsoever. It can either be full brazilian (completely no hair) or half-brazilian.

With HairX, I'm glad to experience hair removal process easy and worry free with the use of the newest technology and up to date practices that make the hair removal process almost pain-free.

I have to admit I feel so comfortable and clean without that hint of hair down there. Am I recommending HairX? Definitely, YES, because it is almost pain-free and their servcices is quite affordable.


Hair Removal have been a primary solution to lose that unwanted hair. There are several types of hair removal services such as shaving, plucking waxing, and the latest IPL technolgy. It has a lot of ups and downs. Let me give you a brief detail on each service:

Shaving removes hair using of a blade or razor by cutting the hair at the skin's surface. The advantage of shaving is that it's painless and the cheapest way. The effects are also instant. The downsides are hair still grows back quick, and the hair quality is much thicker. If not done properly, you can have razor burns, nicks and cuts. Ingrown hairs are also inevitable. You can use creams to soothe the area.

Waxing removes hair by applying hot or cold wax in the hairy area to make the hairs stick to the wax and pulls the hair in the opposite of hair growth.

HairX Hair Removal ensures that each procedure is as painless as possible, combining modern services with the latest state-of-the-art technology such as IPL hair treatments, Diode Laser machine, Lycon wax, and threading procedures for hair removal that is effective with long-term reduction results without the pain and distress. The IPL hair treatment (Intense Pulsed Light) uses a broad-spectrum, visible light that’s devised to remove shorter wavelengths and target the melanin pigment in the hairs located specific areas of the body.

Hair X also offers Power Brows Microblading, Body Massage and Foot Reflexology (in its S Maison branch only), plus Facial services(Glow, AquaFacial and Pristine Facial) and Skin Lightening Treatments (AquaLite, PristineLite, IV Glutathione, IV Placenta and IV Cinderella). Hair Removal have been a primary solution to lose that unwanted hair. There are several types of hair removal services such as shaving, plucking waxing, and the latest IPL technolgy. It has a lot of ups and downs. Let me give you a brief detail on each service:

What are the advantages of using IPL Treatment for hair removal?

Shaving removes hair using of a blade or razor by cutting the hair at the skin's surface. The advantage of shaving is that it's painless and the cheapest way. The effects are also instant. The downsides are hair still grows back quick, and the hair quality is much thicker. If not done properly, you can have razor burns, nicks and cuts. Ingrown hairs are also inevitable. You can use creams to soothe the area.

Waxing removes hair by applying hot or cold wax in the hairy area to make the hairs stick to the wax and pulls the hair in the opposite of hair growth. Waxing is the painful way to have those hair removed. And the hair should be at least a quarter of an inch too make the pulling out or hair effective. The good thing is that hair regrowth is a bit slow, which will only require you just one trip to the salon in a month. Hair that will regrow will also be finer. The pain becomes tolerable if you get accustom to waxing.

Laser Treatment utilizes laser to penetrate through the skin to target the hair shaft and inhibit hair growth. It essentially destroys the follicle, meaning it can achieve almost permanent removal. Typically, the hair in treated areas falls out within 2-3 weeks. Laser hair removal can be painful, with most people describing it as a “snapping” sensation against the skin, as well as a sensation of heat from the laser. Laser is a semi-permanent solution to a hair free legs, arms and pits The only con is that laser treatments are pricey, it will require several visits to achieve an almost hair free body.

HairX Hair Removal Branches:

HairX Hair Removal (Conrad)
2nd Level, S Maison, Marina Way, Mall of Asia Complex, 1300 Pasay City
T: (02) 772-4587 - M: 0915-774-3139
Operations: Mon-Sun (10:00AM - 10:00PM)

HairX Hair Removal (BGC)
2F Eight Forbes Town Road, Forbes Town Center, Fort Bonifacio, Taguig
T: (02) 403-6346 - M: 0977-855-5793
Operations: Mon-Sun (11:00AM - 8:00PM)